Road Rage And Teens: What Every Parent Should Know

How can you help your teenager keep his or her cool on the road to prevent a case of teen road rage?
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Road rage and teens is a match made in Hell. As parents, we know that teens sometimes have judgment issues. We also know how emotional they can get. And still, kids are eligible to apply for a driver’s license at the age of 16.

Now isn’t that every parent’s nightmare?

So you’re wondering: is there anything at all you, as a parent, can do, to have a positive influence on your child when he’s far away from you, out on the road, and behind the wheel?

Sure there is. Let’s start with you. Are you always cool, calm, and collected when driving? Congratulations, then. You’ve been a wonderful example for your child.Angry woman driver2

He’s watched you be courteous to other drivers. He’s never seen you grumble curses under your breath or flip another driver the bird for cutting you off. That means you’re halfway there for modeling the sort of behavior you can only hope he’ll emulate now that it’s his turn in the driver’s seat.

Of course, that’s not the whole story. Teenagers are a (road) raging mass of hormones and their brains are in a very active stage of development. They may find it hard to keep their emotions in check and their stress levels tolerable. And of course, if they get overemotional or stressed out, it’s likely those emotions will express themselves as aggression toward the dude on the road that’s really messing with their brains.

That is exactly how road rage starts.

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Road Rage And Teens: The Hallmarks

So how can you know if your teenager is going to be able to keep it together while driving? You take a look at his overall behavior and see if any of the hallmarks of the typical road rage personality are there. Let’s take a look shall we?

  • When your kid is along for the ride and you’re driving does she sometimes make cutting comments about other drivers?
  • Does she become irritated over the mistakes of other motorists on the road?
  • Is your teenager quick to anger?
  • Is she sometimes rude?
  • Does your teen often criticize others’ behavior?
  • At home, do discussions often turn into emotion fests with (her) yelling and screaming?
  • If your teenager does something wrong, does she take responsibility for her actions?
  • Have you set a good driving example for your teen—are you always calm, cool, and collected while driving?
  • So let’s say you’re not the greatest in terms of keeping your cool behind the wheel. When your teenager rides with you and you lose it, does she look happy to watch you “give it” to the other driver? Does she encourage your angry reaction?
  • Does your teen tend to be a bit of a show-off? Will she do anything to get attention?
  • When your teen drives and you’re along for the ride, do you see her taking too many chances?

Okay, so let’s say your kid doesn’t test too well. She gets a seven out of the above eleven possible hallmarks for road rage. Now what?

Be ready to take action, that’s what. You need to DEAL with this. In fact, let’s assume your teenager has already shown signs of road rage—what should you do?

Car Keys

It’s very simple:

Take. Away. The keys. To the car.

You might just save her life.

Harsh, huh?

Don’t really care. And you shouldn’t either. It’s your job to protect your kid. If she’s a menace behind the wheel, take that wheel away from her.

Now naturally, she’ll scream and cry and want to get you to change your mind with all manner of unpleasant behavior. Reassure her that she can get the key back by proving she knows how to drive like a normal human being. Talk about what that will entail. Be totally firm and unyielding.

The bad driving behavior is not something she’ll grow out of. It’s not a phase in her development. It’s life-threatening and will remain a habit and a temptation until you nip it in the bud for good.

Begin by telling your teenager that she can drive, but only with you in the car alongside her. Once her driving behavior convinces you beyond all doubt that she has learned her lesson, you can return the keys to her eager little hands. Of course, you need to let her know that having driving rights is a privilege that must be continuously earned by stellar driving behavior.

If you see that despite your willingness to ride alongside her until she models good behavior, she remains angry and confrontational behind the wheel, don’t be a fool. Don’t give her the keys even for a short drive to the drugstore to buy toothpaste. Just don’t do it. No.

No keys until she’s learned her lesson.

(photo credit: OlegD /
(photo credit: OlegD /

Does it seem like she’ll never be calm enough to regain those keys? Get her counseling with a mental health professional. And then withhold those car keys until the professional clears your teenager for active driving duty.

If you only suspect your child might be prone to road rage, don’t be afraid to ask others to let you know what they observe when they see your teen driving. Talk to other parents, your child’s teachers, and any other adults that are close to your family and ask them to watch and observe how your child drives.

Make sure they know you want to hear if there are incidents of erratic, angry behavior while your child is behind the wheel. You’re not asking them to rat your child out: you’re just asking them to help you keep your child (and the other motorists on the road) safe.

Core Values

As a parent, always model good driving behavior for your children. Children learn their core values from their parents. In that sense, you are responsible for the bad behavior your children learn from you.

Don’t let anyone shake your resolve in taking action to prevent your child from driving if you suspect she has an issue with road rage, or is susceptible to developing such an issue. You are keeping your child alive. She won’t always be a teenager. And someday she’ll be all done with the crazy hormones that cause her to take risks. Your job is to keep her safe until that day arrives.

It’s a difficult job but someone’s got to do it.

And that someone, as your child’s parent, is you.

Kars4Kids has a campaign to draw attention to road rage and safe driving. Check out our Beep-Off App. You won’t want to leave home without it!


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