Finding a Mentor: Do’s and Don’t’s

by <a href="https://www.kars4kids.org"> Kars4Kids</a>

Kars For Kids funds educational, developmental, and recreational programs for Jewish youth and their families. Our goal is to foster a generation of well-balanced, productive adults. Our means to accomplish this goal is to provide children and their families with a strong network of personal guidance and educational resources, individualized to their needs.

Kars For Kids funds educational, developmental, and recreational programs for Jewish youth and their families. Our goal is to foster a generation of well-balanced, productive adults. Our means to accomplish this goal is to provide children and their families with a strong network of personal guidance and educational resources, individualized to their needs.

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It’s mid-way through National Mentoring Month and, by now, you are surely convinced that finding a mentor will help you become a better person and a more successful student or professional.  So how do you find that special person to mentor you?

Kars4Kids has saved you a lot of time by putting together a list of do’s and don’t’s that can help you find a compatible mentor and build a productive relationship.

Do:

  • Be proactive. The most successful mentoring partnerships are those in which the mentee takes the initiative.
  • Look for a mentor who lives close to you. Personal connection is important and someone far away — even if they are experts in a field that interests you — will not be able to give you the same amount of time and attention.
  • Go in person to request that this person become your mentor. Explain why you want her to be your mentor and tell her what you expect from her.
  • Take your mentor’s advice.  You selected him because of his knowledge and expertise.  Learn from his leadership skills and implement the advice he gives you.
  • Pay it forward – use your experience as a mentee to mentor someone else.
  • Express your gratitude. Send your mentor a thank you note and let him or her know how meaningful their mentorship has been.

Don’t:

  • Ask someone you’ve never spoken to or a person that shares no mutual connections to be your mentor.
  • Be unprepared when you meet. Although you want a conversation, have questions ready so you will get the most out of your meeting.
  • Expect your mentor to solve all your problems for you. Do the work!
  • Stay in your comfort zone: do not shy away from new learning experiences.
  • Avoid talking about problems, anxieties, or grief because it makes you seem less than perfect.
  • Stay in a mentoring relationship when it is no longer helpful.

 

 

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